When couples divorce, many questions arise about child custody and support. However, concerns about the children’s well-being may continue even after a New Jersey judge issues a final decree. Sometimes, the relationship between parents and children deteriorates after a divorce. A combination of detachment and neglect by divorced parents could have a troubling effect on a child’s development.
Parental disengagement
Divorce is sometimes best for parents and children alike since living in a home where spouses do not get along can have a negative effect on all. However, problems may persist after the marriage dissolves when stress and other issues lead to neglect or mistreatment of the children. A study published by the peer-reviewed journal Personality and Individual Differences reveals that many children of divorced parents find their parents to be disengaged and highly critical. Such behavior could result in psychological trauma to the children.
Parents might benefit from stepping back and determining whether their behavior is harmful to their children. Persons with self-awareness and self-discipline might realize their behavior is unhealthy and make adjustments. Some may enroll in counseling to overcome the stressors and factors contributing to their behavior.
Addressing problems
Both parents might not embrace disengagement, excessive criticism, neglect and borderline or outright abusive behavior after a divorce. One spouse might be guilty of these actions, and the other spouse could worry about the effect on a child. The concerned parent might return to court to address things in such instances.
The court could review the situation and decide on an adjustment to child custody based on the best interests of the child. For example, the court may limit visitations and institute supervised ones. Or, the court might change joint custody to sole custody. Circumstances dictate the decisions.