Going through a divorce is a challenging time. Even when you know the divorce was the step you needed to take, it can seem like a long time before you start to feel “normal” again.
After the initial decision to divorce, you may be torn on whom you should tell and how you want your friends and family to find you. After so much time with your spouse, it can seem challenging to know whom you can count on now that your life is changing.
Here are a few tips for creating a support system during your divorce.
Start small
While your circle of friends may change during and after your divorce, you can start looking to your closest friends or family members to support you as you process your future. At first, the number of friends may seem small, but they will be the people you know you can count on for support.
While your divorce is in progress, you may want to keep your circle small. In some cases, an ex will try to use information from a mutual friend as ammunition during a divorce. While these tactics tend not to be successful, they can still carry significant emotional damage.
Seeking professional support
Going through a divorce can reach many areas of your life. You will likely need more support than your loved ones can provide. You may need to consider getting additional support through professionals such as:
- A mental health professional
- A support group
- A legal professional
These specialists have the skills and experience to help you through your divorce. Your friends and family may be happy to help you, but they may not have the tools to give you the support that can help you move forward.
Your support team is an essential part of getting through a divorce. It is crucial to choose the people you reach out to carefully.