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The relationship between depression and divorce

On Behalf of | Oct 4, 2022 | Divorce

Depression is a mental health condition that can cause a wide range of symptoms, including sadness, fatigue and feelings of worthlessness. It’s one of the main causes of divorce in New Jersey, and it can be difficult to acknowledge and seek help for in the context of a relationship. However, by understanding how depression manifests itself and how it can lead to divorce, you can be better prepared to seek help and protect your relationship.

Common signs of depression in a marriage

One of the most common signs that depression is affecting a marriage is when one or both spouses withdraw from the relationship. This may manifest as social withdrawal, where the depressed spouse stops wanting to go out and see friends or family. Alternatively, it may be emotional withdrawal, where the spouse seems distant and uninterested in intimacy. In either case, this withdrawal can lead to feelings of loneliness and isolation, which can further contribute to depression.

Another sign that depression is impacting a marriage is when one spouse becomes increasingly critical of the other. This may be due to feelings of inadequacy or resentment. Sometimes, this criticism is directed at the depressed spouse’s appearance, job or parenting. This can lead to feelings of shame and insecurity, which can worsen depression.

How depression can lead to divorce

First, the symptoms of depression can make it difficult to maintain a healthy and happy relationship. For instance, someone who is depressed may withdraw from their spouse, which can lead to feelings of loneliness and isolation. Additionally, depression can lead to marital conflict as the depressed spouse may become critical of their partner. Finally, depression can make it difficult to manage other aspects of life, such as work or child-rearing. This can create additional stress in the relationship, which can eventually lead to divorce.

If you or your spouse are struggling with depression, it’s important to seek help. Depression is a treatable condition, and there are many resources available to help you manage the symptoms and protect your relationship. With the right support, you can overcome depression and build a happy and healthy marriage.