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What are some common divorce mistakes to avoid?

On Behalf of | Jan 7, 2021 | Divorce

When you file for divorce in New Jersey, the decisions you make at the beginning of the process can have a huge impact on the case later on. In fact, the decisions you make now can set the tone for the rest of the case, for better or worse. Here are some common mistakes that many people make at the beginning of their divorces.

What are some common mistakes to avoid?

One of the most common mistakes is posting about your divorce on social media. This might seem like a convenient way to break the news to your family and friends. But if you say anything that could be interpreted as a negative remark toward your former spouse, his or her attorney might be able to use those words against you in court. Even if you delete the post, your spouse or friends might have grabbed screenshots. It’s best to avoid talking about the divorce on social media until the entire process is over.

Another common mistake is fighting for what you perceive to be more parenting time with your child. If you get too caught up into trying to take time away from your former spouse, you might realize later on that the judge’s decision doesn’t work for you after all. For example, you might realize that your work hours coincide with the time you get with your child. Instead of trying to “win” the most parenting time, focus on figuring out a plan that works for both parties and that benefits the children.

On a similar note, don’t view your divorce as something that you have to “win.” Everyone has to make sacrifices in a divorce. If you’re more likely to negotiate with your former spouse, he or she might be more likely to make compromises. Focus on working together instead of trying to take everything from your former spouse.

When do you need to hire an attorney?

It’s never too early to hire an attorney. When you have an attorney on your team, you can receive advice from the beginning that keeps you from making costly mistakes. Your attorney may also help you negotiate with your spouse.