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Things to consider before asking for a divorce

On Behalf of | Jun 25, 2020 | Divorce

Couples in New Jersey who are coping with the stress of global events may find their marriages struggling. If you have been feeling fed up with your partner as of late, this is not necessarily a sign that divorce is in the cards. Even if you have been going through a lengthy rough patch, there may still be a resolution, if you and your spouse are willing to work together and have open communication. However, you should be honest with yourself about some potential warning signs if you are starting to think about divorce as an option.

Who is your source of emotional support?

You may be familiar with the concept of emotional infidelity, which happens when someone in a relationship has a non-physical but intimate relationship with another person, like a coworker. Some people use a more expansive definition of emotional infidelity, meaning that a person can emotionally “cheat,” even with a completely platonic friend, if the person is fulfilling his or her emotional needs with someone other than that person’s spouse. Consider who you find yourself going to in times of need and, if you are not comfortable relying on your partner for emotional support, ask yourself why.

Are you and your spouse growing together?

People change as they get older, but it is not always for the better. If one spouse begins to spiral backwards and develop bad habits, it can have a negative impact on the other spouse and his or her own personal goals. Another problem is when one spouse tries to change the other’s values or when spouses do not share the same core values. For instance, if one spouse strongly values family time, and the other is constantly out at work or with friends, this may be something that cannot be reconciled.

If you are still unsure of whether it is time to move forward with a divorce, you can consult with a family law attorney for guidance. Family law attorneys can help not only with divorce proceedings but also with discussing everything involved in a divorce and deciding if it is worth it.