Doing The Work Behind The Scenes

Preparing for a divorce involves more than just collecting papers. You must prepare yourself emotionally, mentally and financially. You may have children you must prepare, as well. Perhaps you want to avoid divorcing during a certain time of the year. We will help you prepare your whole self for divorce, not just your finances.

The process often takes much longer than people think, so you should recognize that it takes time and you may encounter bumps along the way. Robin Jill Schneider has been helping people with family law and divorce cases for over 30 years, and she is a New Jersey Supreme Court-Certified Matrimonial Attorney. She knows how to prepare for divorce, including what you can expect at each stage, and can help smooth out those bumps.

Gathering Documents Is A Critical Step

You will need to gather all your basic financial documents, as well as those of your spouse. We recommend that you gather these documents well ahead of time so your spouse does not start hiding his or her financial information. Important documents include:

  • W-2s from employment
  • 1099-MISC forms from all accounts or freelance work
  • Pay stubs from a current job
  • Real estate records
  • Investment and retirement records

These documents will allow you to plan for the division of your property and determine whether child support or spousal support are appropriate in your situation. Is your spouse self-employed? Make copies of bank records, work orders and invoices, if you can.

Helping Your Children Prepare For Divorce

Preparing your children for divorce takes time and patience. Consider involving a therapist to help your children work through the questions and issues they will have. Everyone in the family may benefit from therapy, but children have the fewest tools to cope with the changes, and they generally have the least amount of control over the situation.

Remember that you should never put your children in the middle of your disagreements with your spouse or bad-mouth the other spouse in front of your children. They love and need both of their parents throughout the divorce process and afterward.

Let Us Help You Prepare

You need a lawyer you can trust during this difficult time. We will be there for you every step of the way. Call our Matawan office today — serving Middlesex, Monmouth and Ocean counties — at 732-812-4944 or send us a message to set up your free attorney consultation.